All of Us Want to Be Valued~


            Hi again. It’s the third time for me to write on this month. I don’t expect too much to my self, because i know that i’m bored easily toward something. But apparently, i like writing for this blog so bad.

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Now i’m gonna be writing about what’s in my mind after watching Gitasav newest video, “Tidak Semua Laki-Laki—Not All men”. I didn’t think that i was into feminism, because a lot of things still confusing me. I tried to trust the main focus of feminism, but some people kinda make it complicated. Especially if it’s related to religion. But Gita simplifies it well. It’s about our voice, who want a justice for those who are being harassed, physically or mentally—because of gender stereotype. Gender equality doesn’t mean that we want 180˚ changes—man should be at home and take care of children while woman take all of the responsibility in finance. And it’s a lie if i say that i never feel bad of being female. Yeah, in certain moment. But i feel worse now for my self that blame the gender because of trivial thing.

Okay, let’s not talk about what’s my opinion in feminism. I write because i just realized so many cases about sexual harassment and woman or man abuse. Like Gita said, this is real. Probably we never see it with our own eyes, but this world is wide and the media isn’t wide enough to reach every case. Even the victim usually shut their mouth in order to save themselves from the toxic society. It’s hard to live in a community that’s still ruled by gender bias.

You  : So why is everything very complicated? You sound like this world can’t be changed.

Me  : Yeah, if we don’t have awareness about how important the issue is.  

            We can create a change, started from ourselves. Of course all of us have a community. At school, course, neighborhood, place where we worked, or the real group which shares the same hobby. It’s our responsibility to make a healthy community. I’m not talking about changing other’s mindset. It’s good but only keep everything in the line is enough. For example, they start talking about someone because of their gender. “Our boss is woman. That’s why this company doesn’t develop well” or “That man is supposed to be the one who finish all this work. How come this kind of work is done by woman”. You can say that we shouldn’t complain it because of the gender. Instead, we can talk about what we can do together. Don’t talk like we divide everything by gender. Many stuff can be done both by man and woman.

Me       : What do you think about man who’s born physically ill? Does that mean he lose his masculinity in the first place? And what about woman who become athlete and being as strong as man? Does that mean she can’t be a mother?

You      : uh

Me       : Don’t be ridiculous.

Sexual harassment happen because society stereotype. Man is strong and rational while woman in reverse. It makes people think men are reliable for everything. In result, women are oppressed and both woman and man who can’t fulfill the society standard are being mocked. Thus, we should know how important it is to not continue this culture.

Stop saying, “You are man. You should do this” or “You’re  woman. You know nothing”
Instead, say “I think you’re more capable to do this. Can you replace me?” or “It’s not a bad idea. But what about this one? I think it’s more efficient”

Because in fact, everyone is the same. We want to be valued.


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